Addiction

There are many addictions out there in this universe. You may think some are worse than others, but I believe it's all bad. Addiction- the state of being enslaved to a habit or practice or to something that is psychologically or physically habit-forming. You could be addicted to fast food, nicotine, weed, sex, drugs, etc. I know you're like how is me smoking weed addictive? Because it's not. Okay just like with other examples, fast food and sex aren't necessarily addictive, but if you let it control you IT IS. I'm sorry to break the news to you. Everyone is addicted to something at some point in their lives, but take it upon yourself to break the cycle. Stop looking down on others because in your eyes they're addiction is way worse. Either way, beating it is hard. Pray on it and take small baby steps to recovering. It is possible and you will probably feel so much better knowing those French Fries at Chickfila are no longer calling your name and controlling your mind. I said that to be funny but its all serious... I know.

Travyyyy LOVE

I decided to write a Post about Travis Porter. I SUPPORT THEIR GRIND. I can see how much work they are putting in and they AREN'T EVEN SIGNED! I can only hope they keep this up once they do get a label behind them. Some people feel differently about them: they feel like they aren't doing anything but hindering our music scene. These people want to know what good have they done.

From day 1 MUSIC has been about making yourself feel good. It speaks to your soul! Whether it is inspirational or just makes you happy! I don't know why critics always feel like every celebrity or artist has to carry our entire society on their back. They make music that speaks to them and hell it speaks to me too! I have said this before and I will say it again. Last year I was down ALOT and all I could listen to were serious songs that made me even more depressed. Now I'm not saying they saved my life or anything, because I wasn't that Down & out but their music definitely motivated me to move on and get stuff done!

They make party music and well sex songs too. They make me want to be happy just from listening to them. I LOVE THAT about them. Like I said I love the fact that they are on their grind. I don't know any other unsigned artists who created a short film and had a premiere with a concert in their city (but hey someone might have done it before, just not in ATL). Not only that but I got to meet them when they shot a scene for their movie "Proud to be a Problem". I was in a club scene. They are really cool. I'm not knocking their hustle and I don't think anyone should. I wish them nothing but the best and I know they will achieve great things.

If you disagree, that's cool. You have that right. :)

oh check out their website www.wearetravisporter.com if you haven't before!

UR SCARING ME!

There are a few type of guys that scare me. The thing is, this shows how much I have GROWN.

I hate to assume things about people, but I'm looking out for my best interest.

1:
If a guy shows how much of a bad temper he has within just a week of knowing him, I'm backing away slowly...!! I can only assume he'll get worse as I get to know him and I refuse to have someone put their hands on me or talk down to me ever again! Of course this is not Foolproof, because the only guy who was abusive was sweet to me for 3 months before that side came out. I'm just saying, if you show it to me and I dont like it, I'm not sticking around.

2:
If you call my phone and I do not pick up, GIVE ME TIME TO RETURN YOUR CALL!! Come on now guy, do not call more and send a text! That's kind of scary and stalkerish! It's not that serious. Whether it is 5 minutes or a few hours later, if I WANT TO I will return your call or text PERIOD. Stop looking thirsty! That is so not attractive! (this of course is different if u are my man, in which case I can only assume ITS IMPORTANT)

3:
Do not bug me about seeing me and when I decided to visit, your house is extremely dirty and your brothers (homeboys) are hogging the only tv playing video games. I am a grown woman and this isn't impressing me. In fact, I don't see why you even think I would "court" you (as grandma would say). I told him we could only be friends... you obviously have no sense.

4:
Do not bug me about when you're going to see me PERIOD! Ask once, maybe twice, but that's it. Obviously if I want to see you, we will collaborate on schedules and ideas and figure something out!

5:
You telling me how good you are in bed= NO NO NO... not impressed. I'm not a teen. If anything it makes me think it must suck because you have to brag. Let your skills speak for themselves IF it ever gets to that.

6:
Do NOT lie about stupid things. YOU ARE NOT my man so therefore, I do not care. Do you because I am definitely doing me! Be real with me.

7:
DO NOT EVER LOOK OVER MY SHOULDER AND READ MY TEXT MESSAGES!!! That is an invasion of privacy and I don't need a guy who is nosy.


I'm sure there are more things to add but I can't think of anymore at the moment. I am very observant and guys turn me off extremely quick. I'm very picky but that's a good thing.

Update

I just uploaded an app for my phone that'll let me write blogs n post them sooo it's really convenient now n I will write more! Lol.

:)


~Miss Safiyyah

Why Deal??

This question arose the other night: if we know so much then why do we deal with things (people) when we kno what's going to happen everytime? No matter how much we say we deny it, we want to believe this person will be different when they aren't! It ties in with the idea of wanting something so bad, you try to see past the warning signs. Yet sometimes, there are no warning signs and for that I have no advice. We have to stop giving ppl so much credit- if it's not working for the credit bureaus how is it going to work for us?

But I can admit I am getting a little better- instead of starting a dude with something compared to a $1000 limit, I start them off with $50. However, no one has showed me they deserve an increase in their limit yet... So I continuously drop players from the team n add players to the team. It is what it is.

Now don't get me wrong... There will be someone who comes along and is different but you still need to start off slow. I have a new plan where I'm just making friends. I put nothing more than that on them. I thought of this when thinkin of how to make a marriage work and I realized I would need a friend!! Lol But these basic guys can't even handle friendship, they react like it's a foreign concept. Wait it is- other girls come at them with intentions off top of getting in a relationship (I say this from experience). Either way you lose, but that's fine. Because if they're basic, why would you want to be with them or have a long term relationship with them??




~Miss Safiyyah

More to COME

i promise i'm gonna try to write more everyone!!! lol like soon!!

Friends? How many of us have them? lol

Dreams are strange... U never know exactly what they mean, unless you are a dream interpreter i guess. a book i'm writing has a few crazy dreams in them. I bet you can't wait to read it. I still have a little more to go, so sorry on that note! lol

Moving on

As you get older you lose friends. That's obvious. Some you really don't care about, some you do. Some you even wonder why you lost them as friends. I have a few of those from high school, but it still doesn't bother me that bad. I know everyone has their season, but sometimes I think we cut ppl off too soon. Like you believe you will be better off without them in your life and that eventually leads to ignoring phone calls and texts. That person gets the clue and you don't hear from them again. Okay, but what if that person was someone you knew for a good 4 or 5 yrs before this happens. Regardless of how much they got on your nerves, didn't they deserve a little better as far as treatment? Couldn't you have just been real and told them how you felt about them or something? Of course not, that would be too much like right, right? lol So 2 years have gone by and you still haven't spoken to them. You ride down their street and think of them, but know better than to call or stop by. A random memory pops in your head of them, you still do nothing about it.

Is it because you are so used to being without that friend now? The friend that at their best was love? Someone who stood up for you on numerous occasions, someone who was willing to fight for you, someone who cared point blank?

Or is it your pride that refuses to admit you were wrong? Better yet, maybe its this fast paced, selfish world we live in? You keep yourself so busy filled with nothing, that after awhile you haven't noticed the time flew by so fast.

Of course, the nice things are always remembered, but I guess the bad things stop you too. The fact that they never admitted their feelings for you even after you did. The fact that they disrespected you at some points- but you knew that was their personality the entire time you knew them, so why get sensitive now? Why didn't you just confront them about it?

Forgiveness is extremely important. There are always two sides to a story. Both of these sayings are said almost everyday to us, yet it goes in one ear and out the other until its too late. You have to forgive yourself and them for all of it. More than likely when you get to this point, the arguing and the silent treatment seems kind of petty.

My point is, I've had a friend I loved unconditionally who is no longer with us. I never had a fight with him or anything. We just went a few months sometimes without talking, because we both had "busy" lives- I was in school n he had 2-3 jobs. It wasn't about being mad at each other at all. One night I had this urge to call him, once again I put it on the backburner and said I will when I get home. He got killed that night, and I regret not calling him. Now, when I think of someone I make it a point to call them. I don't let an entire day go bye without doing so.

Here's a question: Should you call or txt someone you havent talked to in years? If they don't respond, when should you try again?

(You probably thought I was going to say should you try again, haha, of course you will because you won't let one try n fail stop you)


Dedicated to my Best Friend